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Drew's Musings


Am I Codependent, or Am I Just Being a Good Partner/Parent?
Codependency describes a pattern where your sense of purpose, calm, and even identity becomes tied to managing, rescuing, or controlling another person's problems — often at the expense of your own needs, boundaries, and wellbeing.
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Aug 214 min read


It's Not an Excuse: How Addiction Hijacks the Brain
If you've felt skeptical of the "disease" label, you're not alone, and you're not wrong to want more than a slogan. Skepticism usually isn't stubbornness — it's pain looking for an honest answer.
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Aug 204 min read


My Loved One Struggles with Gambling, Not Drugs or Alcohol — Why Doesn't Anyone Talk About This?
There's no "sobering up." With substances, there's often a visible before-and-after — intoxication and then a return to baseline. Gambling addiction can be entirely invisible in the moment. Your loved one can place a bet from their phone in a bathroom stall, and you would never know unless the money disappears.
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Aug 114 min read


Navigating the Fear of Relapse: A Family's Journey to Healing
Restoring sanity to a family traumatized by addiction requires a shift in perspective and approach. It means acknowledging the pain and trauma experienced by all family members and actively working towards healing.
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Apr 266 min read


Healing Together: Why Demanding Understanding in Early Recovery Can Backfire
How Families and Recovering Loved Ones Can Communicate Without Derailing Progress The journey of addiction recovery is rarely a solitary one. It ripples outward, impacting families and loved ones in profound ways. One of the most common and challenging emotions that surfaces during this time is anger. Family members often harbor resentment, frustration, and pain stemming from the addict's past behaviors. But what happens when a loved one in early recovery is met with this ang
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Mar 55 min read


Navigating the Tightrope of Addiction: A Parent's Journey
It was natural to operate from a place of pure emotion, the ingrained belief that we are responsible for our children's happiness. My child was hurting, and my instinct was to fix it, to soothe the pain, to make everything okay.
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Jan 124 min read


Understanding Alcohol Addiction: A Parent's Perspective
First and foremost, it's crucial to understand that addiction is a disease. It's not a moral failing or a sign of bad parenting. It's a chronic illness that affects the brain and behavior. Several factors contribute to addiction, including: Genetics: Research suggests that genetics play a significant role in a person's susceptibility to addiction. If there's a history of addiction in your family, your child may be at a higher risk. Environment: The environment your child gr
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Jan 33 min read
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