top of page

Drew's Musings

Guilt
"I must have done something wrong for this to have happened." These feelings are normal. Here are some thoughts to help you through.


Am I Codependent, or Am I Just Being a Good Partner/Parent?
Codependency describes a pattern where your sense of purpose, calm, and even identity becomes tied to managing, rescuing, or controlling another person's problems — often at the expense of your own needs, boundaries, and wellbeing.
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Aug 214 min read


My Loved One Struggles with Gambling, Not Drugs or Alcohol — Why Doesn't Anyone Talk About This?
There's no "sobering up." With substances, there's often a visible before-and-after — intoxication and then a return to baseline. Gambling addiction can be entirely invisible in the moment. Your loved one can place a bet from their phone in a bathroom stall, and you would never know unless the money disappears.
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Aug 114 min read


Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: Grief, Guilt, and Starting Over
Loving your grandchildren and grieving what addiction has cost your family are not in conflict. Both things are true at once, and you don't have to choose between honoring your loss and being fully present for these children.
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Aug 104 min read


When You're the One in Recovery and Your Child Is Still Struggling
There is a particular kind of heartbreak reserved for parents who have found recovery themselves and then watch their child walk the same road they fought so hard to leave.
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Aug 104 min read


Coping with Incarceration: Finding Strength Together
When someone we care about is incarcerated because of substance or alcohol-related crimes, it can feel like the ground has shifted beneath us.
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Apr 125 min read


How Do I Deal with My Loved One’s Relapse? Navigating the Storm with Strength and Compassion
When someone close to you stumbles on their path to recovery, it’s natural to experience a flood of emotions—anger, fear, doubt, and mistrust.
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Feb 233 min read


Navigating the Tightrope of Addiction: A Parent's Journey
It was natural to operate from a place of pure emotion, the ingrained belief that we are responsible for our children's happiness. My child was hurting, and my instinct was to fix it, to soothe the pain, to make everything okay.
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Jan 124 min read


Understanding Alcohol Addiction: A Parent's Perspective
First and foremost, it's crucial to understand that addiction is a disease. It's not a moral failing or a sign of bad parenting. It's a chronic illness that affects the brain and behavior. Several factors contribute to addiction, including: Genetics: Research suggests that genetics play a significant role in a person's susceptibility to addiction. If there's a history of addiction in your family, your child may be at a higher risk. Environment: The environment your child gr
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Jan 33 min read


Building Stronger Family Connections Together: Family Connection Strategies
Families impacted by substance use face unique challenges. Healing and rebuilding trust can feel overwhelming. Yet, with patience and the right approach, it is possible to create a supportive environment where every member feels valued and understood. I want to share some family connection strategies that help foster warmth, communication, and resilience. These ideas are gentle, practical, and designed to bring families closer as they navigate recovery together. Understanding
Andrew Perkins, CRS, CFRS
Jan 33 min read
bottom of page