Why Won't He Just Stop Drinking?

It's a question that echoes in the hearts of many, a plea born from worry, frustration, and a deep desire for change. When someone you care about struggles with alcohol, it can feel like you're watching a slow-motion train wreck, helpless to stop it. You might think, "Why won't he just stop drinking? It seems like a lack of self-control and weakness." But the reality of alcohol use disorder (AUD) is far more complex than that.

Understanding AUD is the first step toward finding support and hope. It's not a moral failing or a sign of weakness. AUD is a chronic, relapsing brain disease characterized by compulsive alcohol use, loss of control over alcohol intake, and a negative emotional state when not using. This means the brain has been altered by alcohol, making it incredibly difficult to stop, even when the consequences are severe.

Educate Yourself:

• The Brain's Role: Alcohol affects the brain's reward system, creating a cycle of craving and dependence. Over time, the brain adapts, requiring more alcohol to achieve the same effect (tolerance). When alcohol is removed, the brain goes into withdrawal.

• Genetics and Environment: While not a guarantee, genetics can play a role in AUD. Environmental factors, such as stress, trauma, and social influences, can also increase the risk.

• It's Not a Choice: The disease aspect of AUD means that the person struggling with it often doesn't have the ability to simply "stop." The brain is wired to crave alcohol, and the withdrawal symptoms can be physically and emotionally debilitating.

Supporting Your Loved One:

• Learn About AUD: The more you understand, the better equipped you'll be to offer support.

• Avoid Enabling: Enabling behaviors, such as making excuses for the person or covering up their drinking, can inadvertently prolong the problem.

• Set Boundaries: Boundaries are essential for your well-being and can help the person struggling with AUD understand the consequences of their actions. Be clear about what you will and will not tolerate.

• Encourage Professional Help: This is crucial. Encourage your loved one to seek professional help from a doctor, therapist, or addiction specialist.

• Offer Support, Not Judgment: Show empathy and understanding. Let them know you care and are there for them.

  
  

The Path to Recovery:

Recovery from AUD is possible, but it's a journey, not a destination. It often involves a combination of therapies, including:

• Detoxification: Medically supervised detox can help manage withdrawal symptoms.

• Therapy: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and other therapies can help address the underlying issues that contribute to alcohol use.

• Medication: Medications can help reduce cravings and prevent relapse.

• Support Groups: Groups like Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and SMART Recovery provide a supportive community.

Hope and Change:

It's important to remember that change is possible. Recovery is a process, and setbacks can happen. But with the right support, treatment, and a commitment to change, your loved one can find a path to a healthier, alcohol-free life.

Call to Action:

If you or someone you care about is struggling with alcohol, don't hesitate to seek help. Schedule a consultation with Drew at Stronger Together Family Recovery Partnership today.